Getting Over The Upset: Thoughts And Tools To Get Back To Your Highest Self

Conscious Lifestyle

If you’re reading this, it’s likely you care about your personal well-being and want to live the most fulfilling life. For that you are loved and respect to you for doing your very best. Of course, taking action to improve the quality of our lives, thoughts and emotions is no quick fix. Living our best lives means putting in real mental and spiritual effort to cultivate a better lifestyle. If that’s what you’re trying to do, then please read on.

Progress Is Not Linear

When we decide we want something and take action to achieve it, naturally things come up that could not have been previously foreseen. Things that rattle us. Things that make us feel un-well. Things that make us question whether or not we have actually made as much progress as we thought. It’s a feeling of three steps forward and two steps back, or even worse, one step forward and two steps back! Do not fear. This is your reminder that what rattles you shapes you. Here are five tips and reminders for when the going gets tough. You’re worth it and you have access to all the knowledge you need to overcome and prosper.


1. What you think you need and what you actually need are not always the same thing:

Be humbled by the three-dimensional world. This experience we call life is limited by sensory thresholds. We can’t see much more than ten metaphorical feet in front of us. Good thing it’s really all we need! Your higher self has the full map. When things come up out that are out of your control, trust in your higher self’s solution. The experiences we need to go through in order to grow do not care about ego. What feeds your highest good and what feeds your ego do not come from the same Source. Turn your gaze to the light, and know you are protected.  

2. Sometimes pain is the feeling we have when we are releasing old habits and energy, praise this change:

Making the commitment to change can sometimes feel like you’ve bitten off more than you can chew. Seriously, change is not comfortable. Sometimes it’s so painful to release the things in our life that no longer serve us. And it can also be disheartening that we still feel pain even when we do let go of things that do not serve us. We may stop to ask ourselves, “Why after all this effort do I still feel exhausted or unsettled?” Don’t get it twisted. If you have put your intentions into feeding relationships, feelings and habits that serve the best you, take your pain and off-days as a reminder that dense, negative energies like to make themselves heard on the way out.


3. Use your negative state for introspection. You’re in control. You’ve got this:

If you’re feeling unwell, ask yourself why. Much of the time, our negative emotions are coming from a place of ego and fear. We have an innate tendency to look at things negatively because in more primitive times we needed to consider the worst outcome in order to prepare ourselves to survive. With practice you can more quickly choose a better perspective. Allow yourself the space to reassess and ask for a perspective of clarity. One of the most powerful antidotes to being stuck in a negative state is being self-aware that you are in that state, and that you’ve created that state for yourself. You have an amazing brain constantly trying to understand itself. You can transcend and look at your pain and fear objectively, and detachment will follow.


4. Choose to release and forgive, it is for your highest good:

It sure can feel addictive to hold onto grudges, spite and anger towards others. Remember it’s always your choice to forgive and let live. Any feeling you holds towards something else never exists outside of yourself. You’ve created it, and anger is like holding a piping hot piece of coal: You are the one that gets burned. Thinking negatively towards others often carries with it a familiarity and comfort-ability, especially if that has been your habitual way of perceiving for years. Be patient with yourself and ask to focus on the best, highest energy. You can get addicted to that, too and it ultimately will prove itself more powerful in every aspect of your life.

5. Look forward to better days, and promise yourself you will never stop trying:

By no means should you be inauthentic or untrue to yourself if you feel upset, but choosing to retain the negativity you find in a situation will become a hindrance to connecting to your true power and path. Take everything you go through as an experience. Everything that happens to you can serve your highest good if you let it. Nothing is permanent. You can always choose to rebuild and go back to the drawing board. Chances are you’ll have a better idea of what you need or want after experiencing a situation that you don’t like. You’ll find a way to make it better next time.

Article Contributed By Jenna Wroblewski